Forgive and Forget

Should we Forgive & Forget?

Forgiving is good for Emotional Health.

Forgiving strengthen Relationship.

Forget not to keep on learning from past.

Forget not to safeguard from being victim of same offence again and again.

Forgiving is healthy, boost self respect, and reflect inner strength.

Forgetting is not necessary, sign of weakness in character, and exercised when you move away from those who hurt you.

Forgiving Helps, Forgetting doesn’t.

Not Forgiving Hurts, not Forgetting doesn't.

We have power to Forgive but no power to Forget.

Bible teaches to forgive but says nothing about forgetting.

Bhadvat Gita teaches to remain unaffected by hurt and use it as a lesson by surely not forgetting about it.

If hurt happens then the person needs to rebuild the trust rather re-earn the trust which is difficult as one who hurts is full with the malice n malevolence.

Those who suggest to forget are those who advocate the rule of might to make distinction in favor of the people or system they prefer most.

How to forget?

There are 5 ways are suggested to forget but these are the part of doctrine of unlearning and should be practiced when someone is bound to relearn the same thing but in a proper way.

1. Meditation- It breaks the loop of thoughts and stop the recurrence.

2. Avoid- Not doing and not indulging in the things which are considered for forgetting.

3. Drumming- Practice of 'Taal' and 'Laya' help to engage the thoughts away and shift the focus by breaking the brain wave patterns.

4. Dancing- Practice of dance suppress the rational mind activities and provide tranquility & blissfulness where engaged thoughts become a distance reality.

5. Time, as it moves on- Journey through time opens many more possibilities for opening of mind to change the priorities thus past becomes irrelevant.

Forgive but do not forget. For immediate time remember it to draw important learning and when once priorities will change one can afford to forget. But if lesson learned is for lifetime there is no need to forget.

Remember and Recover, Forgive but Forget not.

Growing Trend of Coaching in India

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"Coaching is the best option of quality Learning, hiring a coach is an investment" says G.Sairamesh MCC-ICF

Professional Coaching is a thought provoking one-to-one partnership between the coach and the client. Coaching is a creative process where coach ask affirmative questions that inspires clients to maximize their personal and professional potential. Coaching is used as a tool to develop winning strategies, making desired changes, and achieving success. Coaching assimilates a responsive and appreciative approach based on what’s right, what’s working, what’s wanted, and what’s needed to get desired outcome.

Anand Sagar, senior L&D Executive and a Coach, says “Coaching is person centric and an effective tool of their development. There are five types of professional coaching viz Performance Coaching, Executive/Professional Coaching, Career Coaching, Development Coaching, and Life Coaching.” 

Professional coaching is different than sport, education coaching.

Sports coaches share their superior knowledge and experience to mold behavior of players and teams whereas 'Professional Coaching' focuses on identifying opportunities for development based on individual's strengths and capabilities in challenging as well as good times.
Many ignorant or less informed education, tuition, and training institutes call themselves coaching institutes though they do not practice coaching.

Presently in India, 'Professional Coaching' is growing significantly and fast becoming a trend.

Individuals and companies are hiring coaching services when something urgent, compelling, or exciting is at stake. They engage in coaching to cover knowledge gap, accelerate results, make fruitful decisions, address problems, balance work and life, and/or to identify the core strengths for their advantage and empowerment.

Bhaskar Natrajan-PCC, ex Global Director of ICF, says, "There are approximately 6500 professional coaches in India. Among them only 10% coaches are accredited to some governing body which standardize, develop, and regulate the process of coaching."

"Approximately half the accredited coaches are practicing coaching in India", he says.

The count of coaches is rapidly increasing now a days. Professional coaching culture is only a decade old in India. Bangaluru is the coaching capital while Hyderabad, Mumbai, and Delhi are also harboring many coaches and witnessing the serge in coaching activities though needs significant efforts and time to catch up with the world. Australia has as many coaches as India and US has 20 times more professional coaches than India.

Coaches are not adviser, consultant, therapist, trainer, or mentor.

I, being a coach, believe that my clients have all the answers and I help them discover those answers by adopting certain techniques and affirmative coaching approach.

These techniques can be used by any coach but a trained coach can use it more effectively.

At present, India does not have any governing, regulatory, or statuary body to control and monitor the coaching process thus it is not a guarantee that a coach will not play the role of an adviser, consultant, mentor, or will not point towards a direction.

In recent time various types of specialized coaching have evolved. Individuals and organisations have options to choose the appropriate form of coaching as per their specific requirements.

Success rate of a Coaching Engagement is over 90% and more than two third clients repeat the coaching process. Return on Investment of coaching is much higher than training or other support and development system. Ability of questioning as a powerful tool of professional coaching to deliver results in stipulated time with higher success rate is encouraging corporate world and individuals to engage more with professional coaching to unlock values and potential.

Business houses are availing coaching for their expansion plans and increased profitability. 'Business Coach' makes them highly accountable and helps them reflect on previous successes and future aspirations.

Established leadership and higher management executives those who wants to appear ready for taking bigger responsibilities in their career seek 'Executive Coaching' to hon their communication and leadership skills.

To define their leadership style and to lead themselves and their team effectively new leaders engage with 'Leadership Coach' who comforts them on driving seat to shape their personal leadership style.

'Career Coach' helps millennial to identify the most suitable and aligned career path and helps them to seek clarity in their goals. Career Coaching creates lasting impacts on organisation's culture and productivity.

'Life Coach' helps their clients to accomplish personal and professional goals by achieving a breakthrough or breaking a barrier. 'Life coach' serves variety of clients and also helps to avoid midlife pitfalls and maintain the work-life balance.

'Students and Youth Coach' helps them to excel in academics and perform well in competitions. Student Coaching aims to increase the awareness of self and surroundings to make them highly successful early in their carrier while significantly reducing the cost of education.

Emotional Intelligence expert. Asst Prof Dr Badri Bajaj says, "Student Coaching is a powerful tool of Mindfulness, and nourishing the talent in 'B' class towns to shape the future leaders of India".

Knowing that how to co-create a trustworthy coaching partnership with most appropriate coach eases the path of success, transform and thrive the organisation.

India is all set to see its first Coaching Revolution in near future.

Harsch Kumar Lall

Executive Leadership & Learning Coach